Your Guide for The Parenthood Journey

How would it feel to have an experienced guide
to count on through every step of your parenthood journey?

Pregnancy, birth, & parenthood change you — forever.

No matter how you become a family, once you begin this journey it leaves a permanent mark on your heart.

It’s common to have LOTS of different feelings on your parenthood journey…

And while there are tons of information available about pregnancy, birth, and parenthood all at the touch of a button, what about that information? Is it current? Is it evidence-based? Is “Dr. Google” a reliable and unbiased source of support when searching for guidance about the realities of raising the next generation?
That’s where I come in…

With over twenty-five years of practical experience inside and outside the classroom, I can help you navigate all the normal twists and turns that might happen as you make your way through pregnancy, birth and parenthood.

My passion for all things bellies, birth and babies has been lifelong and I’m excited to share that passion with you! I’d like to be your confidante – someone you can trust to share the realities of what is means to raise the next generation and encourage you to trust that you already have what you need to do this most important work. I’d love for this to be a safe place for you and your partner to gain the skills and necessary information so that you feel truly prepared for pregnancy, birth, & parenthood.

The road ahead might seem super scary at times...

Working with a me as your guide will make all the difference! Together, we’ll determine which path is the right one for YOU.

Barb Buckner Suárez

Here are just a few comments from the many families I’ve guided through their parenthood journey.

Frequently Asked Questions

I’m so glad to hear you’ve been referred to me! Former families are my BEST ambassadors! Check out my “Work With Me” page where you can schedule and register for the services that seem right for you. Still have questions? Schedule a free 15-minute call with me and we’ll figure it out together.
Schedule a free 15-minute call with me and we can talk about where you are in your parenthood journey and tailor something specific that will meet your needs. I’m certain that we can find a way to connect! Still have questions? Schedule a free 15-minute call with me and we’ll figure it out together.

How to work with me

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I'm Pregnant? Now What?

To get you started on your journey, I offer an online, on-demand webinar. This is perfect for those thinking about getting pregnant, actively working towards getting pregnant or still in their first trimester.

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Getting ready for the big day

My Childbirth Preparation Class 4-Week Series can be taken as a small group online offering during the lunch hour or as a private 3-Week Series at your convenience. It’s designed to help you approach the big day feeling excited and empowered rather than frightened and overwhelmed.

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What do I do again?

This is a class for those who have already given birth before and need a refresher or those who are wanting more hands-on practice for the experience of labor and birth.

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Tools for the Journey

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The Connection Bubble

No one can predict how your birth will unfold. In this Couples Connection Class, the focus is on helping couples strengthen the relationship they share prior to birth so their baby can be born into that shared connection – no matter what.

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Becoming Us

Becoming Us (Before OR After Baby) is a 4-Week Series of either small-group or private sessions designed to help couples navigate the normal challenges and changes that happen after starting a family. 92% of couples report increased conflict after the birth of their first baby. Becoming Us classes help babyproof your relationship.

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Re-prioritizing our relationship

These private Couples Coaching Sessions are geared for couples who are wanting to reprioritize their relationship. I work directly with couples on the unique issues coming between them so they can grow closer together as they learn communication skills and how to handle conflict better as a team.

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Trekking Ahead

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Who am I now?

Becoming a parent can have profound effects on your self-identity and the transition to parenthood brings both joys and struggles. These private sessions are designed to help you integrate who you were – with who you are now.

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Adding to Our Family

These private sessions are designed to help couples considering expanding their family (or already on their way) but could use a little extra support around what to expect. Part counseling, part mediation, the work we do in these sessions will help you prepare for what it means to add a new baby to your family.

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I need to tell my story

It's perfectly normal to feel grateful for having a healthy baby, and still need to process the challenging emotions of a birth that was not what you expected. Lingering feelings of anger, grief, frustration, and disappointment can prevent you from adapting to and enjoying your new role as a parent. Birthing people, partners (even birth workers!) who have gone through a challenging birth, can work with me in these private sessions to integrate one of life’s most transformative experiences.

I'm kind of on a rant lately... Maybe you're picking up on the theme? ​​​​​​​​
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It's so hard to give to our littles (or anyone else in the world) if we're running on empty, ya'll. You need to protect your energy.​​​​​​​​
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So, the question to ask yourself is: What recharges your batteries - physically, emotionally, socially, mentally AND spiritually, speaking? ​​​​​​​​
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Do you have interests, hobbies or people that can fill you up in these five different areas? Bonus points if they crossover and can recharge your batteries in more than one area.​​​​​​​​
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I just got back from the Oregon Coast with some dear friends. We ate good food, had a few drinks, sang a little karaoke, laughed until our bellies and faces hurt, walked next to the ocean, and talked about the world and how we're trying to do our part to make it a better place for the next generation.​​​​​​​​
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I feel like I got a "Full Human Being" tune-up, ya'll! ALL five areas were fully recharged in this quick 30-hr overnight hangout. (But I'd be lying if I didn't admit to needing to go to bed early tonight! LOL My physical energy stores are a little bit low at the moment... Totally worth it, though.)​​​​​​​​
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For the record, protecting your energy doesn't have to cost you anything, and you don't have to go anywhere special to make it happen. ​​​​​​​​
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Tonight, I'll be drifting off to sleep listening to a sound bath meditation. One more way to protect my energy so I'm ready for whatever comes my way this week. What recharges you? I'd love to hear your ideas.​​​​​​​​
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#bbsuarez #protectyourenergy #rechargeyou #childbirth #comfortinlabor #earlypregnancyclass #becomingus #couplesconnection #birthhappens #podcast #oneononesessions #couplescoach #whatibelieve #birthmatters #connectioniseverything #itbeginswithbirth #raisingthenextgeneration #support #moresupport #bettersupport #hereforyou #pregnancy #birth #parenthood
When you're having a hard moment as a parent, how do you treat yourself? What's your usual script?​​​​​​​​
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When things feel impossible, do you beat yourself up by saying things like, "Why can't I do this? Everyone else seems  to handle things like they're no big deal! I suck as a parent!!" ​​​​​​​​
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When I read this, my chest gets tight... Like there's a giant, iron fist grabbing my heart and squeezing too tight. What's happening in your body?​​​​​​​​
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What if, instead, you tried a little bit of self-compassion? It can be helpful if you use a term of endearment in this new way of talking to yourself, so maybe something like: ​​​​​​​​
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"Oh sweetheart, of course this is so hard! Every day there's something new and the learning curve is so steep. Do you long to handle all things parenthood like a pro? Do you need acknowledgement of fear and anger at feeling like you're alone in this most important work? Do you wish for a "Parenthood Angel" to show up on your doorstep to swaddle you in a fluffy blanket and hold you while you take a rest?"​​​​​​​​
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How does your body do to reading this different script? I feel the tightness in my chest dissolve,  and I can breathe deeper. The iron fist has lost its grip.​​​​​​​​
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When things are hard, it's helpful to treat ourselves differently, and maybe "treat" ourselves, too. ​​​​​​​​
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A friend of mine always has chocolate chips hidden in her pantry. If she's ever having a hard parenting moment, she sneaks in & closes the door for a moment or two. I love to imagine that as she slowly savors the sweetness of the chocolate, she speaks some sweet words to herself at the same time. XO​​​​​​​​
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#bbsuarez #parenthoodishard #chocolatecanhelp #socanselfcompassion #howwetreatourselvesmatters #childbirthprep #becomingus #couplesconnection #comfortinlabor #couplescoaching #goodenoughparent #yougotthis #support #realdeal #honest #vulnerability
Where are you on your parenthood journey? ​​​​​​​​
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Waking up still bleary-eyed from middle of the night feedings and diaper changes, figuring out how to navigate the morning rush of daycare drop-off, lighting fires under butts to get kids to school on time, or navigating young adulthood with your not-so-littles who are almost grown and ready to fly?​​​​​​​​
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You may have figured something out already, but I'm going to say it anyway... The parenthood journey NEVER ends, ya'll! This is a life-long commitment and the joys and challenges just keep on rolling in.​​​​​​​​
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So, wherever you are on your journey, please know that it's never too late to put yourself first in the long list of demands of everyone else around you.​​​​​​​​
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Now these moments may feel few and far between, but they are vital to continuing to do the work of raising the next generation. ​​​​​​​​
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Will you do yourself the favor of carving out a few quiet moments that are just for YOU today? Maybe you sit out on the back porch and breathe in some fresh air... Crank up some favorite music to sing and dance like nobody's watching... Linger a little while after your shower and just - breathe.​​​​​​​​
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I'm realistic, ya'll! Depending on the season, you may only get a few - PRECIOUS - moments to yourself. Do not think that if you can't have a half-day, spa day that all is lost.​​​​​​​​
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It's the quiet moments that are just for YOU that add up over time. But if this doesn't feel possible given your current partner or life circumstances, send this post to someone who's got your back with a note that says, "My needs matter, too." Because they do. XO​​​​​​​​
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#bbsuarez #nevertoolate #yourneedsmatter #childbirthed #comfortinlabor #earlypregnancyclass #becomingus #couplesconnection #birthhappens #podcast #raisingthenextgeneration #support #moresupport #bettersupport #hereforyou #pregnancy #birth #parenthood
You know how sometimes you ask a question and then you're so pleasantly surprised by the answer that you have to create an IG post about it to shout it to the world? Yeah... so this happened to me over the weekend.​​​​​​​​
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One of my Becoming Us series ended a while back and we gathered for a ZOOM reunion because the three families represented were from three different states, WA, OR & UT. (It's so great that I'm able to work with people from ALL over the country so they can learn how to babyproof their couple relationship!)​​​​​​​​
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It's NOT unusual for me to ask my families at class reunions what their favorite parenting "hack" or tool is - the one that they couldn't do without. After all, it's been a minute since I've had a baby, and I need to stay on top of trends, and items that are helpful to expectant and new parents.​​​​​​​​
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Well, Beth's response of "COMMUNITY" was so freaking great to hear, ya'll that I just had to share it with you. Mostly because it is now, has always been, and I suspect will always be, 100% true.​​​​​​​​
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I say it a lot, but I'm never going to stop! We were never meant to parent in isolation. Parenthood has always been a collective responsibility of the larger community and it is only relatively recently that we've come to believe that we should be able to DIY parenthood (or at least share the load with our partner, if we have one.)​​​​​​​​
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Nope. That's not the way it's supposed to be. It takes an entire community to raise the next generation & I hope you've found yours.​​​​​​​​
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#bbsuarez #becomingus #realtalk #bestparentinghack #community #cantdoitalone #ittakesavillage #babyproofing #couplerelationship #couples #conflict #challenges #parenthood #moms #dads #parents #love #couplegoals #couple #relationshipgoals #connection #disconnection #reconnection #couplestuff #parentsandlovers #expectation #reality #preparation #coupleconnection #couplescoaching
Every parent needs at least one person who gets it - how important and challenging parenthood can be. Somebody who will not bullshit you about the struggles but also celebrate the real wins in the toughest job you'll ever love. And here's the weird part... It may end up being someone outside of your pre-baby circle friends!​​​​​​​​
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It's hard to know who you're going to be as a parent BEFORE you're actually a parent. So, weirdly, the BFF you were so excited about being pregnant with at the same time? They might not be the person you end up super close with on the other side of giving birth.​​​​​​​​
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Becoming a parent can bring up a lot of things: family of origin stuff, attachment styles, parenting differences, friendship expectations - just to name a few. So it's NOT unusual for your friendships to change, because YOU have changed.​​​​​​​​
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This doesn't mean that you won't ever hang out with your ride & dies from before this whole parenthood gig started... It just means you might find that you identify and spend more time with brand new parent friends who, above everything else, are REAL.​​​​​​​​
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The ones who tell you NOT to clean your house before they come over to hang out. The ones who will spill all the tea about their latest eff-ups in the world of parenthood. The ones who commiserate about how their relationship is on the back burner these days and it's been forever since they had sex. Like I said... they're keeping it REAL.​​​​​​​​
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You don't need too many, even one will do. But hold onto them, ya'll! Because parenthood is so REAL, your friendships need to be, too.​​​​​​​​
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#bbsuarez #barbisms #paretnhoodisreal #friendshipshouldbetoo #nobs #keepitreal #childbirtheducation #comfortinlabor #earlypregnancyclass #becomingus #couplesconnection #birthhappens #podcast #oneononesessions #couplescoach  #support #moresupport #bettersupport #hereforyou #pregnancy #birth #parenthood
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