Blog - Barbara Buckner Suárez

How Can a Haircut Make Such a Difference?!

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | changes, family, transformation

I took my very soon-to-be 16-year-old son to the local hair salon this week to get his first real haircut. Well, not his very first real haircut. For the past eight years or so, I’ve been giving him a buzz cut in our bathroom as he sits in the tub. Why? Let me be...

A Call to Action: Mommas UNITE!

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | activism, mothering

Okay, I’m not opening myself up for a debate about who works harder, or whose children benefit more, or any other divisive angle you can think of in the world of Mommas… I’m just stating the obvious: being a Momma is hard work — regardless of whether you’re juggling...

Sex After Baby: Don’t Believe the Hype!

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | sex, vulnerability

My “Momma Tribe” was a diverse group of women from all over the city. We were ten first-time Mommas that gathered weekly for a couple of hours to support each other in the hard work of mothering. This group of live and local Mommas differed from each other in lots of...

What’s Love Got To Do With It?

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | love, relationship

You might be someone who feels that Valentine’s Day is just another “Hallmark Holiday.” A day that causes too much anxiety and allows for consumerism to run amok. And you’d be right! In terms of recognized holidays, it’s probably right up with there with New...

Supporting Each Other, Supporting Families

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | bridge-building, support

“Another study found that only 11% of women attend a childbirth class while pregnant, and many of those take only the class offered by the hospital. Those classes tend to focus on how women should behave as patients, and less on the risks and benefits of various...

The Best Birth Plan? Letting Go of How Things Must Go

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | interviews

Click here to listen to my conversation with Charlie Gilkey and Angela Wheeler of Productive Flourishing. Finding out what works best for you, instead of holding on tightly to the idea of how things must go might be the best birth (and parenting!) plan. Here’s...

You Matter To Me

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | birth workers, devotion

Twenty years ago, I sat in a darkened room and watched my first birth film. I was entranced. I couldn’t get over how cool the whole thing was! How strong the birthing woman was, how supportive her partner was helping her through each contraction, how wise and...

#SolitudeCollaboration

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | Quest 2018

I’m taking part in yet another Quest, put on by my friend and mentor, Jeffery Davis and his team at Tracking Wonder. Usually, I respond to the “instigations” proffered throughout the month of December on the private FB forum created for our group, but the latest has...

Using Your Children — For Good

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | family, tradition

This time of year, we’re supposed to be going, going, going. Shopping and cooking and cleaning and partying. So.Much.Partying. Which, if I’m being completely honest, is not an issue for my extremetrovert self (Yes, I just made up that word. If it applies to you,...

The Goddess Myth: Dealing with Disappointment

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | disappointment, expectation, reality

“Mothers will do anything. I knew that going into my research for this story,” writes Claire Howorth in her cover article for TIME magazine from October 30th, 2017. “But for all the communal aspects of bearing and raising children, for all the prescriptions we follow...