Hi there. I’m Barb Buckner Suárez. Nice to meet you.

Originally from Indianapolis, Indiana and smack dab in the middle of a family with two older brothers and an older sister and two younger sisters, I worked hard to stand out and keep the peace at the same time. I still operate on that same principal today.

Here’s a few things I wanted to do when I was a grown-up: join the Peace Corps, train to be a neurosurgeon, work side by side with Jane Goodall and her chimps, and become a Rock Star.

And here are a few things that I’ve actually done as a grown-up: I joined the Jesuit Volunteer Corps, I read everything I can get my hands on about the brain – with a focus on how it affects pregnancy, birth and new parenting, and I sing with the local band, Karaoke From Hell, every chance I can get. (Living with Jane and the chimps is still a dream of mine, but I think it would be too solitary a life for the extreme extrovert that is me.)

If someone had told me when I was a child that I’d grow up to be a teacher I wouldn’t have believed them. And if they’d said I’d find my life’s purpose in helping women and their partners prepare for childbirth and parenting, I would have laughed outright!

It’s true that I always had a fascination with the human body – just ask Sr. Joan of Arc about how my impromptu sex-education class went down during 1st grade recess at Our Lady of Mt. Carmel Catholic Elementary School!

But my reputation as a doll-hating, sports-loving, tomboy would have kept me from ever even considering this work if it weren’t for a request from my friend, Liesl.

Liesl was pregnant with her first baby and asked if I would be with her and her partner Andy for the birth.

I’ve never done anything in my life halfway. I don’t know how else to be in the world. “Go big, or go home!” could be a motto that was written with me in mind.

So, it made complete sense to me, that I should drive 300 miles North of my home in Portland, Oregon and take an eight-day doula training in Seattle, Washington. All so that I’d be ready to be the best damn Doula the world has ever known! (This was in 1998 – long before Doulas were such a part of the mainstream!)

As I sat in the darkened auditorium at the end of the first day of training, images of women giving birth flashed across the screen, and I had an epiphany: “I know what I’m supposed to do with my life!”

And I’ve been working in this field ever since.

I’m blessed to be happily married to my best friend, Roberto. We met 25 years ago, and I’m so glad that we both ended up here, to raise our family together. We have four children – Elisa, Alejandro, Lucía and Félix – and the pregnancy, birth and parenting experiences I’ve had with each of them have taught me so much! They are gifts in my life.

And for almost 20 years, I’ve been lucky enough to support thousands and thousands of women and their partners as they are transformed by the power of birth to start new families of their own. I’m still as fascinated about pregnancy, birth and parenting as I’ve ever been – and I hope that my passion shines through.

Here’s What I Offer You…

Authenticity is at the core of everything I am and everything I do. “What you see is what you get!” – is also a personal motto. Who you find here on this website, in my writing, and in my classes is exactly who you’d find if we were to meet up in person over a beer or a cup of coffee.

I’d like to be a safe place for you and your partner to land during your pregnancy year. I know all too well how vulnerable it feels to go through pregnancy and birth and to begin your parenting journey. You want to do everything “just right” – whatever that means – and I think the experience is made even harder now for one very big reason: The Internet.

The irony that you’re reading this because my website is a part of that internet is not lost on me… But hear me out.

There’s SO much more information available now at the touch of a button. But what about that information? Is it credible? Is it evidence-based? Is there a biased agenda attached to it?

And then there’s social media. It can be a wonderful way to connect with others who are going through the same experience as you, but it can also be a virtual war zone as you try to navigate the “right” thing to say about any of the gazillion topics that are important to expectant families. It’s hard to not go on the defensive or feel under attack by those who make decisions that are different from yours.

Just thinking about becoming a parent can be exhausting and overwhelming these days.

I want to be your confidante – the person you feel you can come to, like a sister or a friend, and get the real story about pregnancy, birth and parenting. I will always be honest with you about the challenges as well as the joys of these life-changing experiences. While I promise not to tell you any scary stories, I’m someone who believes that realistic expectations better prepare you for what’s to come.

I’ll talk often about the influence that our brains can have throughout the pregnancy year – from trying to conceive all the way through “The 4th Trimester” – and how best to work with your brain, instead of fighting it, to have easier and more enjoyable experiences throughout.

I’ll share resources – but only those I feel confident in promoting because I believe in the integrity of their evidence-based message.

And I sincerely hope that some of my passion and joy will rub off on you a little bit to help ease any fear or anxiety you might feel during your pregnancy, as you approach giving birth, or after you’re knee-deep in the day-to-day of parenting.

So, grab a cup of your favorite beverage, poke around a bit, and stay for a while. I hope something here grabs your attention and provides you with what you need at this point in your journey to becoming a parent.

Thank you for the honor of being able to help you through one of life’s most awesome experiences: birth. But remember, it’s not just a woman who gives birth to her baby, but individuals who give birth and become parents, and a couple who gives birth together and becomes a family.


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