expectation Archives - Barbara Buckner Suárez

Happy Mother’s Day?????

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | expectation, mothering

I can’t tell you how many women I know, Mommas for the first time, or several times over, that don’t really look forward to the holiday that’s happening a few days from now. Mother’s Day is not always happy. But it might not be because of the reasons you’d...

The Goddess Myth: Dealing with Disappointment

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | disappointment, expectation, reality

“Mothers will do anything. I knew that going into my research for this story,” writes Claire Howorth in her cover article for TIME magazine from October 30th, 2017. “But for all the communal aspects of bearing and raising children, for all the prescriptions we follow...

Crafty Momma

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | expectation, pressure

Apparently, there’s a trend in the birth world that I find a little disturbing… Pregnant women are going online to get ideas about how to create impressive Gift Baskets to give to their L&D Nurses on the day that they give birth. Now, don’t get me wrong! I...

Mind The Gap!

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | expectation, reality

“Mind The Gap” This is a phrase that was introduced in 1969 as part of the London Underground to alert passengers of the space that exists between the subway platform and the train. But what about the gap that exists between expectations and reality? I call it:...

My Belly Pooch

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | acceptance, body image, changes, expectation, parenting, reality

(Not my actual belly pooch… I’m brave people, but not that brave.) At my age, my body and I have come to a sort of reckoning. I go to Boot Camp 3x a week and push my competitive self to beat the twenty-somethings in class alongside me and this allows me to...

Why is PAIN a Four-Letter Word?

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | coping, decisions, expectation, labor, pain, planning

I taught a class recently that was a little different. It only meets once and focuses on the brain-body connection, the practice of comfort measures, and how to stay in a coping mindset throughout birth. There’s no discussion about the stages of labor or when to...