Barbara Buckner Suárez, Author at Barbara Buckner Suárez

A Legacy of Love

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | family, legacy, love

I’ve just returned from a 10-day trip to visit my parents. Technically, I was doing full-time “elder care.” It’s hard for me to consider my parents in that way… Elders, much less in need of full-time care. But at 81 & 88, my parents are absolutely the...

Birth=Improv? Yes, and… No

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | birth, vulnerability

Recently, I took part in an “Intro to Improv” class with about 25 other nervous-but-willing adults — none of whom had ever done improv before in their lives! Nevertheless, we all showed up, ready to fully engage with one another in this new experience. For those of...

Bringing the War Home: PTSD & Childbirth

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | PTSD, Veteran's Day

Today is the nationally recognized holiday in the United States known as “Veteran’s Day.” There are lots of American flags being flown, and parades in big cities and small towns, lots of “Never Forget!” and “Thank you for your service!” statements being...

No “Training” Needed

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | parenting, partners

I read this article from the New York Times and let me first acknowledge all of the really great things the author writes about as a new Momma: the need she has to ask her partner for more help, the attempts she makes to encourage her partner to show up and...

Mothers Make It All Happen

by Barbara Buckner Suárez | mothering

“Mothers… We make it all happen, don’t we?” This is what the young, pregnant Momma pumping my gas said to me this morning. (Don’t judge! It’s a law in Oregon. It’s actually illegal to pump your own gas. For real.) I shook my head and answered, “Yep, we sure do.”...